ain’t something to be fucking prideful of
have pride in things you create
yea, but in a sense sexual identity is a thing you create. no one chooses to be gay, but unless you want to live with people assuming that you're straight and that your boyfriend is just a friend, you have to craft your identity, choose how to frame things, judge who to tell and when to tell them. I first came out when I was 13, and it was one scary experience, and it took a while for me to really create and then accept my identity around the basic condition I knew to be true. coming out and being accepted by everyone (which took years) was emotionally taxing enough for me. I can't imagine what it's like to do that work to discover yourself and then be denied your own family's affection because of whom you love.
