Serious LGBT Thread

[john]

also every time you do put yourself out there you gonna be more confident about doing it next time
i think the reason a lot of people stay the same way is because they wont take that first step, wont have been on 5 really shitty dates, won't have embarassed themselves a few times to figure out the norm. im sure its the same thing for everyone that's been to their first party and dont know how to act or drink or go about it
when you past it you aint gonna fall back on it
it certainly aint worth getting stuck there forever and feeling anxious about it because you wont take your first steps

 

[PilotBland]

sex doesn't measure anything about you its just a way to get off

i don't find it super fascinating with randos and i think relationships are better but at the same time, my mindset is different from like... 7,000,000,000 people inhabiting this earth who just wanna bang and move on.

 

[Ond]

also every time you do put yourself out there you gonna be more confident about doing it next time
i think the reason a lot of people stay the same way is because they wont take that first step, wont have been on 5 really shitty dates, won't have embarassed themselves a few times to figure out the norm. im sure its the same thing for everyone that's been to their first party and dont know how to act or drink or go about it
when you past it you aint gonna fall back on it
it certainly aint worth getting stuck there forever and feeling anxious about it because you wont take your first steps

you are your own worst enemy honestly

talk to people like you dont give a shit what they think and you'll honestly be surprised how well it works

if you fake it long enough you wont be faking it in the end

 

[Roman Loaded]

agoraphobes on their way to have sex with your mom​

 

[Gino :3]

no feelings, just enjoyment

I just never got the "no feelings" approach to hookups. Of course, hookups are there to have your meaty-interaction with one another.
While I, like anyone else, certainly have cravings to just go ahead and do it like the fine individual @Ond puts it:

have the opportunity to stick funny meat stick in meat cavern then im gonna do it (unless theyre really gross and possibly crazy)

I always tend to feel better when there's some type of connection. No, not the "ported" connection from individual A into individual B, but simply a clique with the other. Makes it waaaaaaay more enjoyable during sex, and to communicate too. Before, during and afterwards. So it's not just "shoot your load" and be done with it. At least, that's my opinion on it

 

[john]

peoples lives are ruined by an addiction to wanting to have it, ive seen my dearest friends have their lives consumed by it and every time i see them so sad over just not having a sexual partner i cant feel anything but just absolute sadness, im sure people who have le sex all the time are happy in their own state of nirvana but just to see people i love consumed by the obsession of it and to be surrounded by it and to have no other option but to be depressed because of it with no change possible only to be brushed off by "well yea people Want to have sex it's normal" drives me fucking insane and no matter how much i try i can never comfort anyone because of it and i'll always be worst than some fucking sex fantasy, and nobody can understand me. am i really incomprehensible? im using every word i know to put out my most genuine feelings but i cant tell if its just me not having the right words. this is the only thing i can be comprehensible about, i dont know how else to convey this to anyone

i dont mean this in a really bad way but do you hang out with a lot of involuntary celebate type people who surround themselves with this idea that if they just had sex once the whole concept of the world is gonna change, because if so you're hanging with the wrong crowd. this is like the 0.01 percenters that let something so basic consume them and instead of trying to better themselves and figure things out they surround themselves with likeminded people and create an echo-chamber of negative affirmations.

 

[Mute]

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>funny
>not bad looking apparently
>too much of a dogbrain to realise when someone's making advances and is into me
>only realise things in hindsight
>some retard fucking me over had a completely catastrophic effect on confidence
>i know im capable i just dont know how to do it anymore without feeling cripplingly self-conscious

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hello trains I think you are a handsome young lad you should smile more

peoples lives are ruined by an addiction to wanting to have it, ive seen my dearest friends have their lives consumed by it and every time i see them so sad over just not having a sexual partner i cant feel anything but just absolute sadness, im sure people who have le sex all the time are happy in their own state of nirvana but just to see people i love consumed by the obsession of it and to be surrounded by it and to have no other option but to be depressed because of it with no change possible only to be brushed off by "well yea people Want to have sex it's normal" drives me fucking insane and no matter how much i try i can never comfort anyone because of it and i'll always be worst than some fucking sex fantasy, and nobody can understand me. am i really incomprehensible? im using every word i know to put out my most genuine feelings but i cant tell if its just me not having the right words. this is the only thing i can be comprehensible about, i dont know how else to convey this to anyone

Hello yurrie I believe this is impossible to explain to you simply because your brain works differently as an asexual

sexual intimacy is a normal progression of a intimate relationship a lot of the time, not everyone seeking an intimate relationship is doing so cause theyre sex craved, some people just express intimacy in that way and it’s nothing odd or gross, but again you are asexual so that concept may be hard to understand as you may not feel the same way

i believe you are misunderstanding your friends desire to have an intimate relationship with someone, or you’re using hyperbole, but personally i’ve never met anyone genuinely depressed over not having a partner

 

[Ond]

I just never got the "no feelings" approach to hookups. Of course, hookups are there to have your meaty-interaction with one another.
While I, like anyone else, certainly have cravings to just go ahead and do it like the fine individual @Ond puts it:



I always tend to feel better when there's some type of connection. No, not the "ported" connection from individual A into individual B, but simply a clique with the other. Makes it waaaaaaay more enjoyable during sex, and to communicate too. Before, during and afterwards. So it's not just "shoot your load" and be done with it. At least, that's my opinion on it

very eloquently put, esteemed poster

and i agree, obviously its always 100x better if you genuinely enjoy the company of the person you are with

and by that i meant that you enjoy their company, but not in the romantic sense

 

[Deleted member 7099]

they dont crave the sex they crave what it makes them feel inside emotionally

and what's that? is what they feel inside emotionally important enough that they'll treat people horribly and become loathful? is it really superior to just having a friend?

okay im starting to think the people you hang around have major issues lol, if someone is so obsessed where they can't appreciate you as a friend because you aren't their sex fantasy they're a literal piece of shit and you should cut them off

its easy for someone who's never met them to say that but i know theyre not bad people its just how theyre ruined by it. nobody's inherently bad, something just ruins them, and sex is the most common thing that consistently ruins the best people ive ever known. all i want is to just have someone understand me instead of just diagnose me or call me insane or an idiot or anything, all i want is someone who doesnt even agree just understands to any degree about this

 

[Roman Loaded]

get off tinder....just delete it from your phone......just do it people...go outside......meet other human beings that share your interests and didn't just press a button cause it makes them appear like they're sexier......start exercising.....sleep more....eat better.....watafak my sirs.....

 

[Ond]

and what's that? is what they feel inside emotionally important enough that they'll treat people horribly and become loathful? is it really superior to just having a friend?

if you surround yourself with people who are like this, then they aren't your friends, they're sociopaths

 

[Mute]

start exercising.

STOP TELLING ME TO EXCERCISE EVERYWHERE I GO I WILL NOT EXCERCICE I WANT TO DIE AT 50 OF HEART FAILURE AND LAY IN BED ALL DAY LEAVE ME ALONE

 

[MaelRadecs]

and sex is the most common thing that consistently ruins the best people ive ever known

yes addiction to anything is bad but i dont get how sex is to blame, its literally just a shared bodily function bro lmao, like what's so evil about it

you shouldn't be blaming the act, pretty sure most people have no problem occasionally shagging and having a normal ass life on the side, you're treating this like its a cocaine addiction

 

[john]

and what's that? is what they feel inside emotionally important enough that they'll treat people horribly and become loathful? is it really superior to just having a friend?

i dont know if this is specifically targetted towards you, like people trying to fuck you; and you not being good with it- but if that's the case then thats really messed up. having someone to fuck isnt superior to having friends, don't let anyone coax you into something you're uncomfortable with. and if you dont have sexual feelings its not like you're missing out.

it's a dopamine release in the brain that folks chase after like folks chase after food or alcohol or a ciggie or its simply the contentness of having someone be very vurnerable around you, and being very vurnerable around them. it makes you feel good, most brains are wired that way. there's a lot of very fullfilling things about friendship too, but they're seperate entities entirely, i dont think you should compare them.

 

[Roman Loaded]

STOP TELLING ME TO EXCERCISE EVERYWHERE I GO I WILL NOT EXCERCICE I WANT TO DIE AT 50 OF HEART FAILURE AND LAY IN BED ALL DAY LEAVE ME ALONE

JUST FUCKING LIFT YOU FUCK​

 

[Trains]

thank you for the kind words everyone

i am a coward but i’ll try my best lmao

 

[Mute]

JUST FUCKING LIFT YOU FUCK​

upload me into a computer already im tired of taking care of myself

 

[john]

thank you for the kind words everyone

i am a coward but i’ll try my best lmao

you dropped this, king

 

[Roman Loaded]

thank you for the kind words everyone

i am a coward but i’ll try my best lmao

honestly busting a nut isn't the be all and end all of the world homes, find someone who you really want to bust a nut with, don't settle for hookups, they feel bad and lame and you smell bad and it's like when you're watching porn and you nut and then you feel like you despise all of humanity also stop watching porn, yes thank you yes.

 

[Deleted member 7099]

do you hang out with a lot of involuntary celebate type people who surround themselves with this idea that if they just had sex once the whole concept of the world is gonna change

i surrounded myself in people i thought were my friends and every single inch of them turned out to share such a similar sentiment, theyre depressed without a partner and talk about it constantly to no end, i dont know how else to describe it i dont know what else to do besides try to help them, i dont know what i can or have to say anymore to just have at least one person on this forum or on the internet or in real life of on the planet or anywhere or anyone in my life just come to a singular understanding of how i feel about this, i dont know whats wrong anymore or who's wrong anymore i just want someone who can almost relate to this pit of a feeling instead of having to try to diagnose me or insult me